Choose Your Hard
Updated 2/12/26
On a long run with a close friend on Sunday, she was filling me in about the amazing sermon that was given at her church that morning. The topic of the sermon was “Choose your Hard”. We spent time on our run trading stories on “the hard” we have chosen in our own lives, as mothers, working professionals, as well as in our relationships and our own health goals.
In life, we will all have hard times and we will have difficult choices to make. This concept reminds us that we can choose to respond to adversity with integrity and grace, with self-reflection, humility and sometimes a little therapy.
Here are some of the hard dilemmas that resonate for me and may for you as well:
It is hard to go to therapy but it is also hard to live with the pain of past unresolved traumas.
It is hard to be alone but it is also hard to trust again and try again in a relationship.
It is hard to support our parents health as they age and it is also hard to grieve their loss.
It is hard to have a relationship with toxic parents and family members and it is also hard to lose belongingness with core attachments and our roots.
It is hard to coparent following divorce but it is also hard to live with the guilt of your prolonged conflict negatively impacting your children’s relationships, mental health and overall life outcomes.
It is hard to be married and it is also hard to get a divorce.
It is hard to go to the doctor and it is also hard to live with the anxiety of not managing your health.
It is hard to face your child’s needs and diagnoses and it is also hard to avoid them and not be able to help.
It is hard to open our hearts to love and trust again and it is also hard to remain angry and alone.
It is hard to radically accept our husband/wife/coparent/child as they are and it is also hard to live with resentment, disappointment, and contempt towards significant others in our lives.
It is hard to have a growth mindset and it is also hard to live with fear and insecurity of not ever trying or taking a risk.
Journal Entry Idea
Write about the hard in your own life.